The Frustration of Stammering
Nov0
Are you one of the many people who suffer with the speech impediment known as stuttering or stammering? Does your stutter/stammer cause you to become very frustrated at times? Have you attended speech therapy in the past in the hope that it would help improve your speech? I have managed to successfully overcome my own stammer and as a career I now help other people to attain fluency. In this article, I write about the frustrations and emotions that people who stutter have to deal with.
When I had a stutter, it created many different forms of emotions within me. I was actually ashamed of having this speech impediment and did not want to discuss the problem with anybody. My family, especially my parents, even to this day are unaware of most of the difficulties that stuttering caused me, during my time at school and in my late teens. Even when I had a really bad day at school, I would not talk about what had happened with my parents. I would instead just go to my bedroom and attempt to forget it.
I also felt quite sorry for myself. I always believed that I was a decent person and did not think that I deserved to have this horrible stutter. There were many people in my class who in my opinion deserved to have the stutter much more than I did, however in truth I would not wish a stutter on anybody.
Having a stutter made me feel less of a person than that of what I considered to be normal people. I was not able to socialise with the ease as what everybody else seemed to, and had many traumatic experiences in the classroom when attempting to read out of a book for example.
Even though I had a stuttering problem, I could at times talk quite well. I could not understand why I was able to talk to person A but not person B. This caused me many frustrations.
When I was about sixteen, I started to drink alcohol. This had a major impact on my speech as I could talk perfectly well when I was drunk. This proved to me that there must be a chance of me being able to overcome the stutter.
Speech therapists and negative national associations, have for years attempted to convince me to accept my stutter and have told me that there is no cure for stuttering. How can this be right, if I was constantly drunk, I would be fluent, there is a cure in itself. Of course it is not right or healthy to be constantly drunk but I am sure you know what I mean.
I found certain tasks very hard to accomplish when I had the stutter. Making and answering telephone calls was especially hard for me. I look back now and can not believe that I coped with working in an office environment for six years, at a time when I had the stutter. I remember traveling to work feeling sick in my stomach through the stress and fear.
Ordering drinks and food at the bar, introducing people to each other, attending meetings and job interviews were other aspects of my life which were made all that more harder by my inability to talk fluently.
My advice to people who have a stuttering problem is to not give up, believe in yourself and your own ability to one day achieve fluency. Beware of those who spread negativity such as those people who attempt to convince you that there is not a cure for stammering/stuttering - they are wrong. Most of the people who say this to you will have never had a stutter and will have no idea how our brains work.
List Of People Who Need Words Of Encouragement
Sep0
Living through life makes one to discover that there are various reasons why we may need some encouragement quotes for cards that you can use if you want to lift someone’s spirit.As much as there are great occurances in life there are also some dissapointing times that we can not just overlook. If you are not clear about when it is the right time to share some scriptures of encouragement then take a few minutes to go through this brief but useful post.
The Loss of a loved one
Someone who has lost a loved one needs someone who can speak positively about the situation. They need to be around positive people and to hear positive words. Just becareful not to go overboad. It is important to say the right things all the time or else you will exacerbate the situation.
Let me emphasize and say that when you are trying to encourage someone who is grieving, you need to be skilful and very sensitive.
Someone new at work
Starting a new job may be great yes but it does have its fair share of frustration and stress. So if you know someone who is just starting a new job then you have a candidate to help out. If the friend enjoys a good laugh, you can just send through some best encouragement poetry about the first day at work.
Someone living in a foreign country
Being in a foreign country can be so frustrating especially if you can not understand the local language. One of the predominant feelings are anxiety and being home sick. I know someone who fell into a serious depression a few days after arriving in a new country – to stay for 12 months. This person spent two months seriously ill due to depression.
There are many more people who need to be encouraged from time to time. These include those who are sick and those in prisons. As you live through each day, never forget that someone needs you to share some few motivational words.