A Young Woman Gets Arrested for DUI, Talks to The Human Resources Manager, and Gets Motivated to Turn Her Life Around, Restore Her Self Respect, and Develop a Happy and a Success Oriented Outlook
Jun0
Shelly was identified at work as really conservative person who had a very good attendance record. She in no way went to any of the happy hours right after work and it was regarded through the workplace that she was an extremely spiritual person who oftentimes talked about the potential issues regarding alcohol abuse and alcoholism in our country.
Try to imagine the shock in the company when one Monday morning Shelly didn’t show up for work and not a soul had heard from her. In truth, it wasn’t until about 9:45 in the morning that the human resources department received a phone call about Shelly from the downtown jail.
Shelly Goes Out Drinking With a Few of Her College Dorm Mates
Seemingly, Shelly went out drinking together with a few of her university classmates and friends Saturday night and at some time about 1:15 Sunday morning, Shelly was arrested for a DUI. Because her blood alcohol content level (BAC) was quite elevated, she had to spend two days inside the neighborhood jail.
Shelly Talks to Her Manager and The Human Resources Director
When Shelly arrived at work on Tuesday morning, she immediately told her superior what had taken place and she asked if she could possibly go and talk with the Human Resources director about her “driving while intoxicated” arrest.
When she got to the HR department and met with the director, she discussed that she had not been inebriated since her college days and that she was quite humiliated about her “drunk driving” arrest. She also articulated the point that she required some assistance selecting a professional and successful DWI attorney who would represent her DUI case. Stated differently, Shelly really wanted the Human Resources manager to agree that she needed to see a DUI attorney.
The Human Resources manager told Shelly that she needs to see someone inside the company employee’s assistance program to go over any possible drinking issue that she may have. The HR manager also articulated that she needs to go over her need to hire a DWI lawyer to represent her regarding her “driving while intoxicated” case.
What is more, the Human Resources manager told Shelly that it was good that she wanted to hire a “drunk driving” attorney simply because of the difficulties and harsh issues that are connected to a “driving while intoxicated” conviction.
The Human Resources manager could tell that Shelly was plainly upset and humiliated by this total situation. Consequently, he assured Shelly that while he doesn’t think that conscientious individuals really should ever get behind the wheel after drinking, unfortunately these predicaments at times occur to extremely good individuals.
The Human Resources manager then stated that since such a scenario cannot be undone, what is critical is what the man or women does from this moment in time forward. As acknowledged by the Human Resources manager, “does the particular person learn from his or her mistakes or does she or he develop a pattern of alcohol related troubles that cause the individual long-term suffering and pain”?
Fortunately, Shelly Did Not Have a History of Abusive and Hazardous Drinking
Just before completing their discussion, the Human Resources director told Shelly that it was quite positive that she doesn’t have a history of careless and irresponsible drinking. Furthermore, she hasn’t had an alcohol-related problem since her college days (which was around 14 years ago). As a result, Shelly should be in a position to face her “drunk driving” arrest with embarrassment but also with a belief that she will face and sort out this predicament and become a better individual in the near future.
Shelly thanked the Human Resources director for his caring and motivating words and then walked over to the company employee’s assistance program go over her DWI arrest, her participation in abusive and careless drinking drinking over the weekend, and her aspiration to employ a “drunk driving” attorney to represent her “drunk driving” case.
After reflecting on Shelly’s “story,” the nurse that was part of the company employee’s assistance program described Shelly’s immediate “action plan” that she needed to address and follow. First, she would be required to take a DUI class to learn more DUI facts and information. Second, she would also be required to take an alcohol abuse class to address her possible problem drinking. And finally, it would be a particularily sensible thing to do if she were to consult with a DUI lawyer about her “driving while intoxicated” arrest.
Shelly Feels a Sense of Relief Knowing That She Will Learn From Her Slip-Up and Turn Out To Be Even More Sensible and Success Oriented
It was obvious that Shelly was extremely displeased with the entire “driving while intoxicated” circumstance, but after talking to the Human Resources director and to the psychologist in the company employee’s assistance program, she felt a sense of relief knowing that she would in reality learn from her slip-up and grow to be even more healthy, much more accountable and successful, and an even more thankful person.
A Woman Displays Symptoms Of Depression And Alcoholism, Gets Inspired And Motivated About Making An Appointment To See Her Medical Practitioner About Her Hazardous And Excessive Drinking, And Develops Solid Dating Relationships And Friendships
May0
Teresa was a thirty-three-year-old fashion designer who knew that she had a drinking problem. For instance, within the past two months she has felt the need to have quite a few drinks before going to work, four months ago she failed a random saliva alcohol test where she works, four weeks ago she got stopped by the police for “driving under the influence”, and last but not least, for almost six months she has started to forget what she says and does when she drinks with her pals.
Similar to many other individuals, Teresa’s experiences with alcohol began at a “snail’s pace” and remained at this tempo for quite a long time because every so often she engaged in intermittent social drinking. In point of fact, for around four years, every time she drank, she made sure to drink in a responsible manner. Something about her drinking circumstances, however, seemed to radically change when she divorced her husband.
So She Can Overcome the Divorce of Her Husband More Quickly, Teresa Made Up Her Mind That She Will Begin Palling Around More Regularly With Some of Her Buddies Who Love to Drink
Teresa got dreadfully down in the dumps about the divorce from her husband, and as a way to quit obsessing about her dismal emotions she arrived at a decision that she would start hanging around more frequently with some of her buddies who love to have fun and drink.
Quite frankly, Teresa believed that having fun almost every day by getting a “buzz” by drinking with her buddies would help her rise above the divorce of her husband with less misery.
Teresa’s Drinking Increases Greatly the More Often She Goes to Private Parties, Sporting Events, Happy Hours, Family Get-Togethers, and Dinner Dates With Her Buddies
It didn’t take long, nonetheless, before her drinking increased substantially the more habitually she went to and drank at happy hours, dinner dates, family get-togethers, sporting events, and private parties with her pals. Not only this, but the fact that her drinking pals were all younger than she was and therefore able to party and drink more carelessly was one of the reasons why she didn’t focus more on her increased drinking. In a word, she was drinking and having a great time just like everybody else in her group of buddies without giving too much consideration about the unhealthy results of her excessive and abusive drinking.
Yet somewhere in the recesses of her mind she knew that she most likely needed alcohol counseling but sidestepped the thought as much as possible.
Teresa Gets a Physical Exam, Owns up to the Truth About Her Abusive and Excessive Drinking to Her Physician, and ”Comes Clean” About Her Depression
One late afternoon during her six-month physical, her physician asked her if she drank alcohol. Not wanting to tell falsehoods to her healthcare professional, Teresa owned up to the truth that she commonly drinks more than she should. In truth, she said that she frequently drinks in an irresponsible and hazardous manner. Then Teresa informed her physician about her depression. More specifically, she mentioned that wrecked relationships commonly set off a dismal progression of events typified by increased drinking which further resulted in more depressing feelings that, in turn, resulted in even more drinking. And this is specifically what happened when she and her husband got divorced eight months ago.
When her healthcare practitioner heard this, he told Teresa that according to various alcoholism facts and statistics on alcoholism he was exploring, alcoholism and depression many times come about in the same person. He then told her that some of the alcohol statistics, research investigations, and facts he has been looking into also underline the fact that people who drink in a hazardous and excessive manner and who also go through depression need to obtain treatment for both medical circumstances.
Teresa’s Healthcare Practitioner Makes an Appointment for a Psychological Evaluation and For an Alcohol Abuse and Alcohol Addiction Evaluation
Teresa’s physician then told her the following: “I am not trying to make a snap judgment, but with your medical condition we may be dealing with two separate issues. As a result, I think we need to schedule an appointment for you to get an alcohol addiction and alcohol abuse evaluation from my partner, Dr. Abrams, who is a drug and alcohol addiction specialist. Whether your drinking problem is more associated with alcohol addiction or alcohol abuse is unknown, but I believe that further evaluation is needed. Then I feel we should schedule an appointment for you to get a psychological exam from another one of my partners, Dr. Resnick, who is a clinical psychologist. I want to get a deeper understanding about your pessimism and see how much your drinking and depression are intertwined.” Teresa expressed her satisfaction with her doctor’s treatment strategy and thanked him for his time and assistance.
In all honesty, Teresa now felt a sense of personal self esteem and happiness because she finally became inspired to do something positive about her excessive and abusive drinking and her depression. Not only this, but Teresa also knew that after alcohol counseling she would be more able to develop solid dating relationships and friendships. Now all she had to do was to try to reduce her drinking and get ready for her appointments.
Careless and Excessive Drinking, an Enabling Wife, Inspiration for Constructive Change and Successful Alcohol Dependency Treatment, and Better Communication With Her Husband
Apr0
It took more than a few years but Emily eventually made up her mind that she had enough with her husband’s excessive and unhealthy drinking. She was sick and tired of seeing Barry come home in the early hours of the morning from drinking rather than spending much needed time with the family. She was also exhausted from the second DWI Barry recently got. Moreover she was weary from creating reasons for her spouse when he couldn’t show up for work due to his problems with drinking. In a similar manner she was apprehensive and depressed about the fact that their relationship was deteriorating due to Barry’s careless drinking. And finally she was weary from the hazardous financial jam into which he had placed his family because of his harmful drinking behavior. In sum, Emily felt that her mental health was fading away because of her husband’s drinking problems.
When Irresponsible and Abusive Drinking Inspires a Person to do Something Productive About a Person’s Drinking Problem
One Thursday afternoon when Emily was thinking about what she could do about her husband’s excessive and hazardous drinking, she got to the point that she frankly had to do something positive to cut into the destructive cycle of Barry’s excessive and hazardous drinking behavior.
So she looked online under “alcohol treatment” and found a number of rehabilitation centers that were all located less than twenty-five miles away from where her husband and she resided. Since she didn’t know a lot about these rehabilitation clinics, she eventually decided that she needed to call some of them and ask some important questions. When she called each rehabilitation center she identified who she was and articulated that Barry, her husband, was exhibiting careless and excessive drinking behavior. She also said that Barry, her spouse, had an excellent health insurance program at his job and that residential or outpatient alcohol treatment would be covered if a health care professional in the company health plan recommended the treatment.
At one treatment center, Emily was pleasantly surprised that she was able to converse directly with a healthcare professional who suggested that she come in to describe her husband’s hazardous and abusive drinking behavior in greater detail.
Emily Talks to a Psychologist About Her Husband’s Irresponsible and Abusive Drinking
When Emily got to the treatment clinic, she filled out some required paperwork and then promptly got to see a therapist. After listening to Emily talk about her husband’s harmful drinking, the healthcare professional in a compassionate but firm way explained to Emily how she more likely than not played a major part in her husband’s careless and hazardous drinking through the months and the years by covering for him rather than allowing him to go through the consequences of his abusive and careless drinking behavior.
Emily Finds Out She Has Been Enabling Her Husband’s Excessive and Irresponsible Drinking
Stated in a slightly different way, the doctor told Emily that she may have been accidentally enabling Barry’s excessive and abusive drinking behavior. The healthcare professional also stressed the fact that while Emily could not control her spouse’s actions, with the support and guidance of the rehabilitation team at the rehab center she would not only be able to learn how to stop contributing to Barry’s abusive and unhealthy drinking but she could also learn how to motivate him to make an appointment at the rehabilitation clinic so that he could talk about his hazardous and excessive drinking behavior with a counselor.
The good news was that after Emily revealed this to Barry, and he saw that she meant business, Barry told her that he had been extremely concerned about his careless drinking behavior and that he was somewhat pleased to hear that Emily wanted to do something constructive about his hazardous and abusive drinking behavior. Consequently, he scheduled an appointment to see a psychologist at the local alcohol rehabilitation facility. Needless to say this augmented Emily’s self-worth.
Barry Agrees to Meet With a Counselor About His Excessive and Irresponsible Drinking
While simply calling a treatment clinic does not mean that an individual’s unhealthy and excessive drinking behavior will stop or that one’s warning signs of alcoholism or the alcohol abuse signs one displays will simply go away, scheduling an appointment is evidently a necessary factor in the rehab process. And since Barry was serious about getting quality help for his careless and abusive drinking, the probability for a successful recovery was considerably increased.